It’s Time to STEP UP!
Self-education is important for every profession and ours is no different. In fact, in our profession, self-education is significantly more important than in most others. Why? Because reading books, attending conferences, and watching industry related videos from professionals in the fire service is one of the ways we enhance our situational awareness and develop our instincts. Self-education is also one the best ways to keep yourself motivated.
About two years ago I reviewed my department training file and realized I had more than 150 certificates for industry related seminars I attended over a 15-year period. It wasn’t unusual for me to see many familiar faces at the same seminars during that time. I also don’t think it is a coincidence that most of those people also became high ranking officers within their organizations. Make no mistake about it, there is absolutely a direct correlation between education and career advancement.
Early on in my career I remember hearing a speaker tell the audience, “The reason you attend a seminar is to hear the sentence or two that can help me turn bad results into great results.” As a student, I still attend seminars with that thought in mind. As a professional speaker, it has always been my goal to be the one who provides those words of wisdom for the people who give me the gift of their time. I’m sure you have heard a speaker say something like, “If I can get through to one person my time was worth it.” I absolutely respect that goal, but it has never been mine. My intention is to always get through to everyone who attends my seminars. Whether it be through a story, a principle, or a single sentence, my specific intent is to say the words that person needed to hear on that day.
It was 0730 hours and we were just coming to the end of one of our busiest 24-hour shifts of the year. I was in my officer reviewing some last-minute reports when my cell phone rang. I didn’t recognize the number but answered before realizing that my better option might have been to wait until I was driving home so I could focus on the caller and the reason for the call.
“Hello. This is Deputy Chief Viscuso,” I said.
“Chief Viscuso. This is Chief Walker (not his real name) from Massachusetts. I attended your leadership training at FCAM a couple months ago.”
FCAM stands for Fire Chief’s Association of Massachusetts. Each year, FCAM hosts a yearly professional development conference and I had the honor of speaking about leadership and team development for the past three consecutive years.
“Yes, Chief. How can I help you?”
“I just wanted to let you know that you have made a difference in my life and our organization.”
“Really, How so?”
“Well, during your seminar you said the words, ‘you can’t fix a problem if you refuse to acknowledge that it exists’. I normally don’t take notes, but for some reason I wrote those words down. Over the next week, I kept thinking about those words. I felt like you were speaking directly to me.”
Chief Walker went on to say that shortly after the FCAM conference, he was complaining to a Chief officer from another organization about a problem that he was having with the members of his own organization.
He felt that when it came to department policies and organizational development they were all selfish, stubborn, and unwilling to compromise. The union officials would often bypass Chief Walker altogether and go directly to the Town Manager “Behind his back” for answers. In return, the Town Manager would tell him what he wanted him to do, many times siding with the union instead of the Chief.
“I thought it was me against the World.” he explained, adding that he heard a rumor that the president of the Union was overheard saying that he was making it his personal goal to do whatever he can to get the Chief fired.
As Chief Walker explained the situation to his colleague, the other chief responded with some unexpectedly harsh words. “I hate to be the one to have to tell you this Chief, but you are the problem.” He stated bluntly.
“Me?” An agitated Chief Walker replied, “What makes you think I am the problem?”
“The Officers feel like they can’t communicate with you because you don’t show them any respect, so they go over your head.”
Chief Walker relayed to me that he was initially agitated, but then he went on to share his revelation. Later that night he was contemplating what his colleague said and wondering if it were true. Then he remembered the words I shared at the seminar – you can’t fix a problem if you refuse to acknowledge that it exists – and it suddenly became clear to him. On the next work day, he asked to meet with the Union president and the other members he was having this issue with. They gathered in the conference room at work. Surely, they were wondering Chief Walker was going to come down on them for this time; however, one of them expected to hear what he was about to say.
“I wanted to bring you here to today to apologize to you.” He began, “I have misjudged you all and wrongfully concluded that you were not interested in communicating or compromising. I have not shown you respect, and I now realize that the problem was me. I’m the one who wasn’t communicating. More to the point, I’m the one who wasn’t listening to your ideas or concerns and for that I am sorry. The conflict that has consumed our working relationship is a result of my failure to understand and respect all of you. I’d like to start over and see what we can accomplish if we work together.”
After a moment of stunned silence, the head of the union spoke up, “Chief, we realize we won’t always get what we want, but all we really want is to be heard and understood.”
Chief walker went on to explain that their working relationship has improved significantly since that conversation. “I decided to take this opportunity to be a bigger man and show some humility. My failure to acknowledge their needs and look for a way to compromise was in some ways an act of stubbornness and cowardice. Chief Viscuso, you planted the seed. My colleague watered the ground. Your words and his blunt assessment was what I needed to hear to resolve my problem. Please share this story because I think it might help some people.”
The story you just read represents a very common story that is often found in the workplace. It’s a story about conflict and resolution. Conflict is not necessarily a bad thing. At the root of all conflict is a difference in belief systems. If I was born and raised in the city, for example, and you were born in the country, we would certainly have a different set of life experiences and upbringings. With those experiences we would both have already formed our beliefs. When two people meet and begin working together, there will come a time when they realize that they disagree on something (and sometimes on everything). Some people are so passionate about their point of view that they feel threatened by people who think differently. If you think about it, conflict is often a result of passion. A confident leader will want to be surrounded by passionate people. The key is to be respectful of the opposing point of view. If we can agree to disagree and make a commitment to the overall mission, we can overcome conflict.
There are generally three ways that most people deal with conflict. They Ignore it, Fight it out, or compromise. Ignoring it is not the answer because personnel problems don’t tend to go away without an attempt to work out a solution. Fighting doesn’t work because when we do that, there has to be a winner and a loser. The best way to overcome conflict is by compromising. This doesn’t mean either party would have to compromise their integrity. It means that both parties are committed to finding a solution that each of them can be happy with. This is why we have negotiations.
Common ways people deal with conflict:
- They ignore it.
- They fight it out.
- They compromise.
At the core of conflict resolution is the word respect. If you disagree with someone, try to see things from their point of view. Respect that person and try to understand why something may be important to him, her, or them. You don’t have to agree with them, you only have to understand that their opinion on the matter carries just as much weight with them as your opinion does with you.
When dealing with conflict, take your ego out of the equation. The best ideas have to win, even when they are not your ideas. This can be a very difficult concept for some people in leadership positions to grasp, however, it can be the exact thing your organization may need in order to achieve the performance outcome you desire. Tom Landry of the Dallas Cowboy once said, “There's a misconception about teamwork. Teamwork is the ability to have different thoughts about things; it's the ability to argue and stand up and say loud and strong what you feel. But in the end, it's also the ability to adjust to what is the best for the team.”
I hope you found value in this story, and I hope you strive to seek out ways to become a better leader and teammate. There is no better time than now for you to Step Up and Lead.
Box quote: The best ideas have to win, even when they are not your ideas.
About the author: Deputy Chief (ret.) Frank Viscuso served more than 26 years on the Kearny Fire Department (Locals 18/218). He is the author of 7 books including four of our industries top best-sellers. His popular book Step Up and Lead introduces people the traits and skills they need in order to lead effective teams. Step Up and Lead has been referred to as the backbone of the fire service. Frank travels throughout North America and Europe providing leadership, team development and customer service training to fire departments and businesses. He spends his downtime coaching Little League baseball teams in Toms River, New Jersey.